How To Not Cry
Crying is an interesting human act that raises many questions: Why do we cry? Is crying good for you? Why can’t I cry? How to not cry?
In order to even begin to tackle the question of ‘How to not cry’ it is useful to have some understanding of why we cry to begin with.
During infancy crying has a very specific purpose: a highly effective communication tool, beckoning support. Studies have shown that crying can also be a useful tool in adulthood.
While many people insist that ‘having a good cry’ is cathartic this is not been replicated in experiments, that being said research has shown that around 30% of participants in one experiment stated that their mood improved after crying.
So if you are asking the question ‘How to not cry?’ it is probably beneficial to consider why you are asking that question in the first place:
Are you embarrassed by crying?
Are you using crying as an emotion tool?
Are you overly attached or reliant on somebody?
Are you just having a particular tough time at the moment?
Once you begin to understand the underlying reason of why you cry you can begin to reframe and challenge your concepts.
For example if you feel embarrassed by crying because you think it makes you look weak, then reframe your crying as a compassionate act that shows that you care.
The reality is that some people are more prone to crying than others, for example studies have shown that people who are generally more anxious, neurotic or extraverted cry more easily than others.
Crying more often than you would like to is only generally considered a problem if it is negatively impacting on your life and is accompanied by other things such as low mood, tiredness and sleep disturbance.
If this is the case for you then it is advisable to talk to somebody about it who may be able to help you identify underlying issues and work on improving your mood.